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Stop spinning your wheels and get out of your rut!

Our car got stuck yesterday. Peter had taken a trip to the library to pick up a book I had placed on reserve, and all was well until he arrived home and tried to turn the car into our garage… and got stuck in the deep snow and only partially-melted ruts of ice worn in by all the other vehicles traveling through the back alleyway.

He struggled on his own for around 45 minutes before coming into the house and asking me to give him a hand. I stopped my work, bundled up, and headed out back to see what I could do… which was, really, not much of anything. I took my turn being in the driver’s seat while Peter pushed, and then pushing while Peter navigated. We both tried shoveling some of the ice and snow out from under the car, lodging boards under the tires to give them something solid to grip, and going first forward and then in reverse.

No luck.

Irritated – and only half jokingly – I wedged my shovel into a snowbank and said something to the effect of, “THAT’S IT. The car will just have to stay here until Spring.” Obviously that wasn’t a viable option, though… so we kept working at it, trying all the same things over and over again, the only result being that we found ourselves sinking deeper into the hole our tires were spinning in the ice and slush.

Image: morgueFile

Image: morgueFile

I’m not sure how long we spent frustrating and wearing ourselves out with our fruitless efforts before a passing stranger down at the end of the alley saw us struggling, stopped to check if we were stuck, then came over to help us. I hopped back into the driver’s seat and put the car in reverse while the two of them pushed – but only for a second, as the stranger immediately saw that that wasn’t going to work, and motioned to Peter to indicate that they should lift and push. Sure enough, within moments of applying this strategy the car was out of the rut. I handed the wheel over to Peter and watched as the stranger directed him into the garage, the car lurching and fishtailing all the way, threatening to at any moment slam into the sides of the garage opening but, miraculously, arriving back in its spot in one piece, mirrors and doors intact and unharmed.

Success!

I thanked the stranger profusely (if with some embarrassment) and trudged back to the garage… and by the time Peter had got out of the car and came over to thank him, the silent stranger had completely vanished.

And he truly was SILENT with a capital S! Peter and I had both talked throughout the whole exercise, but I don’t believe the stranger said a single word from the moment he first saw us until the time he disappeared back down the alley. For all I know, he didn’t even speak English, or, for that matter, couldn’t talk at all! Everything had been accomplished – and very successfully, I might add – via motions and body language and an unspoken, shared understanding of the perils of a Canadian winter.

So what’s the takeaway in all this? I’m pretty sure that if you asked Peter, he’d say that it was for me to have picked up my own library book before this last snowfall so that we could have avoided the whole mess in the first place! For me, though, I was struck by just how quickly a frustrating situation resolved itself when we stopped doing the same things we’d already tried a million times before – pushing – and took a new approach pointed out by the stranger – lifting AND pushing.

Instead of spinning our wheels, we got out of our rut.

lightbulbI will have to remember this next time… not just when the car gets stuck in the snow, but when I am stuck trying to resolve some problem or issue and finding that doing the same old things over and over again just isn’t working.

So thank you, Silent Stranger… not only for helping us in our immediate moment of physical need, but for unintentionally teaching me a bigger life lesson: When you’re struggling, think beyond your boundaries and consider a new approach. You might just stop spinning your wheels and get out of your rut!

Have you had any winter misadventures?
What did you learn from them?
Please share!

NaBloPoMo February 2014

Laurel Regan – Writer, tangler, learner of French and Italian, crocheter, cat herder, needle felter, iPhoneographer, Growlita, iFan, on-and-off politics junkie, 80s music trivia freak, ongoing work in progress.

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  • Kebba Buckley Button
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    February 19, 2014

    Laurel, hi! I’m visiting from the UBC again. I just love the creative, dynamic point of view from which you come at life. I’ve already subscribed, so I get to read you often. As to the rut issue–one of my favorite subjects! And you illustrated it so well. As to winter adventures, we don’t have those in Phoenix, other than an actual hard freeze one night around Christmas. We draped the plants with sheets for a few days, and the plants were fine. However, the sheets stank like car exhaust, and I had to launder them multiple times to get the stench out. Pollution! Anyway, bless you and your work!
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    • Laurel Regan
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      February 19, 2014

      Thank you so much for your kind words, Kebba! You brought a smile to my face. :) You’re fortunate not to have to deal with winter adventures – I’m hoping our winter will be a LOT less harsh next year!
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  • Bonnie Gean
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    February 19, 2014

    What a wonderful story, Laurel! And, you are so right! When we think beyond what doesn’t work, often we will find a solution that does!

    A great story, but more importantly, a great way to teach readers a lesson in business! A great read, thank you!
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  • I hate the feeling when I get stuck in a rut! It’s one of the worse things!

  • Carol Graham
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    February 19, 2014

    You painted a great picture and it brought back many memories of when we lived in the MidWest. Now, here on the West coast — well, this year we had one day of snow flurries and that was it! Been a mild winter and hard to believe when I talk to family members who are still in the frozen tundra! So, what has this taught me? What life lessons? My husband was right — he said let’s move West — you’ll like the weather!
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    • Laurel Regan
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      February 20, 2014

      I’ve only lived in the East for a couple of years now, so this is all new to me! Where I’m from (Victoria, BC) has very mild weather and it only snows MAYBE once or twice a year (and it never stays on the ground for more than a day or two). I have been spoiled! ;)
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  • Alana
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    February 19, 2014

    This is a lesson you will never forget! Our big embarassing “we are stuck” moment wasn’t this winter. It was actually in the summer, in New Brunswick, near the Bay of Fundy. We parked somewhere on what seemed like flat sand to walk around and then we got stuck – and the really high tides the Bay is famous for were coming in. Some locals helped us out while their teenagers recorded it on their phones for posterity. (A man who owned a lobster shack ended up towing us out).I’m almost afraid to look on You Tube to see if we got our 15 minutes of…er, fame.
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    • Laurel Regan
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      February 20, 2014

      Oh, dear – THAT would have been very stressful indeed! I’m glad you were able to get some help out of the sand… and hope the teenagers were kind. ;)
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  • Helene Cohen Bludman February 19, 2014

    An uplifting story about the kindness of strangers. I am glad you were able to get the car out, finally. It’s been a wild winter.

    • Laurel Regan
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      February 20, 2014

      It really has! Now we’re supposed to get a huge dump of rain, which I am hoping will wash away a lot of the snow (and not cause any flooding in the process). I can dream, right?!
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