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Pushing past the fear

Fear plus inertia equals stagnation… or worse, regression. And not just in the Big Life Issues, either – I believe it holds true in all sorts of areas. For me, over the past couple of years, it’s been the case in a very silly, seemingly unimportant area of my life:

My hair.

I like the idea of going to the salon – taking care of yourself, being pampered, feeling pretty – but I’ve always been rather intimidated by the process. Everyone is so attractive, and fashionably well-dressed, and focused on appearances. I’m, well, not! Plus I’m shy with new people, a rather awkward small-talker, and not up on any of the popular TV shows or celebrities that everyone at most salons seems to want to discuss.

I can get past all that, though – at least for the hour or two it takes to complete whatever process I’ve signed up for – when I’m feeling confident about myself. Unfortunately, for me, my level of self-confidence increases only as the number on the scale decreases, and prior to our recent move, my weight had soared to its highest ever. As you can well imagine, my self-confidence had plummeted to a new low, and my desire to pick up the phone and book an appointment for a haircut decreased daily.

So my hair grew… and grew… and grew – for two years without so much as a trim – until it reached the longest it had ever been in my life (and for a person with fine, curly hair, that’s really not a good thing). It looked horrible, and I knew I needed to deal with it, but the fear/inertia equation took effect and paralyzed me into stagnation/regression.

Until yesterday!

Empowered by a great start at weight loss (38 lbs, thank you very much!), abundant happiness with life in a new city, meeting new friends and starting to build a social life, I pushed past the fear and booked an appointment for a long-past-due haircut.

And you know what? After all that anxiety and trepidation, it was a great experience! The salon recommended by a friend was small and intimate, the stylist and assistant were friendly and approachable, and I left feeling better, lighter, prettier than I had in years.

Why did I wait so long?!

Laurel Regan – Writer, tangler, learner of French and Italian, crocheter, cat herder, needle felter, iPhoneographer, Growlita, iFan, on-and-off politics junkie, 80s music trivia freak, ongoing work in progress.

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  • Linda May 19, 2012

    You look lovely! I should follow your lead. Mine is also at its longest for an age and also fine. I’ve been managing ok and concentrating on how much I save until now when we have a heatwave – and humidity, which we almost never have! – you can guess the rest. Yet again you are inspiring!
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    • Laurel Regan
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      May 20, 2012

      Thank you so much, Linda! I was doing something similar re. savings – but now I’m telling myself that I’m saving on hair products because I need to use so much less! It all balances out. :)
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  • pammustard May 19, 2012

    Well that is a feel-good story! Way to go! You look great!

  • sandra tyler May 19, 2012

    You look terrific!!!
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  • Sylver Blaque May 19, 2012

    “Unfortunately, for me, my level of self-confidence increases only as the number on the scale decreases…”

    Dawn, if you lived in virtually any other country, weight would not define your social strata, social acceptance, self-esteem, or anything else. You would be considered the ideal no matter what number your scale says. Why? Because you are a beautiful person, talented writer, innovative thinker, intelligent & creative blogger whose posts I look forward to because they enrich my life. In short, I only cyber-know you, but I value your contribution greatly & your scale can take a flying leap! :wink:

  • Corinne Rodrigues
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    May 20, 2012

    A good hair cut does much to make us feel good about ourselves – I’m not sure why we hesitate to pamper ourselves. You look lovely, Dawn, either way. And I absolutely agree with Sylver!
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  • Classic NYer May 31, 2012

    I totally hear you. I hate hairdressers. I haven’t been there in years now.
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  • Betty July 1, 2012

    I can certainly identify with you, Dawn. I always move cautiously to try something new especially moving into a new area. And, I’m especially cautious in getting a new hairdresser since my hair is thin and fine. Although we are only cyber-friends, I like how you look with dark hair. I also look forward to your posts, I’ve learned some interesting things. So — you go girl!

    • DawnStorey July 2, 2012

      Mine is fine and rather thin as well, Betty – I always envy people with thick, full hair! But thankfully I found a stylist who knows what to do with it.
       
      Thank you for your kind words! :)

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