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Meeting friends

(Note: This post was written by Laurel Regan and originally published in a separate blog called “Why Windsor…”, which was later merged with Alphabet Salad.)

I‘ve been giving some thought as to how I’ll go about meeting people and making new friends once we’ve moved to Windsor, and thought I’d do a bit of a braindump here so as to remember some of the ideas I’ve come up with.

My main concern about making friends is that while I consider myself to be an extrovert once I know someone, I tend to be fairly shy with new people, and that shyness means that the introductory stage of a friendship can be a bit of a challenge. With that in mind, one of the ways I’m hoping to get out there and meet people is by joining some groups and taking a class or two based on my interests. Here are some of the things I thought I might try:

  • I’ve been a member of BookCrossing for years, and have been part of a couple of different local meets in Victoria throughout that time. Talking about and sharing books is a great icebreaker, and a fun way to build friendships. I don’t think there’s a BookCrossing meet in Windsor – at least not one that’s active at the moment – but perhaps something like that could get going again.
  • Failing being part of a BookCrossing meet, I could look for a book club that’s accepting new members.
  • I’m getting back into crocheting and needle felting (and might even try knitting some day!), and would love to join a Stitch ‘n Bitch-type meet.
  • My mom, sister and I are talking about taking a trip to Italy together in 2012, and I want to learn some rudimentary Italian before we go. Italian classes in Windsor would be another great way to meet new people.
  • Since I’ll be working part-time, I should be able to devote some time to volunteering. I’m not sure where, but I know there are always places in need of willing helpers, so I’m sure I won’t have too much trouble finding something!

That’s all I’ve come up with so far, but any other suggestions are always welcome!

Edited to add a suggestion from windchick on Talk Windsor:

Laurel Storey, CZT – Certified Zentangle Teacher. Writer, reader, tangler, iPhoneographer, cat herder, learner of French and Italian, crocheter, needle felter, on-and-off politics junkie, 80s music trivia freak, ongoing work in progress.

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  • Cleokatra December 27, 2010

    I don't have any suggestions. I've moved around a lot as an adult, but I've never been very good at making friends. I meet people through various classes or through work and I feel like I am on friendly terms with them, but it doesn't progress to us actually being friends outside of work or school or wherever we met.

    I think the deal is that most adults already have their friends and they aren't really willing to welcome new people into their circle… even if they think they are.

  • onyerbike December 28, 2010

    I'm shy before I really know people too. I tried being part of a Bookcrossing meetup here some years ago, and it kind of fizzled.

    I'm also like Cleo – I'm friendly with a number of people from work, but I've only socialized outside work with a small handful. I've never had a large number of friends.

    As for the Italian lessons, we've got our very own Little Italy on Erie Street – you could immerse yourself in the language without ever leaving the city!

    I don't know of any book clubs in Windsor, but there is apparently a Stitch 'n Bitch: http://windsor.kijiji.ca/c-community-events-Stitch-Bitch-W0QQAdIdZ236192879

  • islandmomma December 28, 2010

    That sounds like a good starter plan to me! It isn't guaranteed that you will become bossom buddies with anyone however much you have in common, but it's a start, and one thing often leads to another. When I first volunteered with the Red Cross, furthering my social circle was the farthest thing from my mind, but because I met like-minded people, with similar views of the world, even though I'm quite inactive just now, it's left me with a close circle of really, really great friends from that, whereas, much as I used to go on about the great rap we had where I last worked, and though I have contact with a couple of people from there, no friends as such. Could have been the other way around of course, you never know, which is one reason life is so fascinating! I'm sure you'll make friends but it takes a little while to know who's who. I think your ideas are perfect.

  • Laurel Regan December 29, 2010

    @Cleokatra – I actually find it to be that way for me in Victoria, and I've lived here fore most of my life!

    @onyerbike – Too bad about the BookCrossing meetup – that would have been nice. Thanks for the info re. Little Italy and the Stitch 'n Bitch group!

    @islandmomma – Thanks for your encouraging comments, and for sharing your own experience – I hope something similar happens to me!


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