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On influencing others

Inspired by NaBloPoMo writing prompt for Wednesday, January 29, 2014:

Are you good at influencing other people?

I wouldn’t necessarily say that I am particularly persuasive. In fact, I really don’t think that word applies to me much, if at all! Most of the time I certainly don’t try to be persuasive, and when on the odd occasion I DO try… well, most of those times I tend to be unsuccessful. (I’m not sure exactly why: lack of conviction or authenticity? Selfish motives? Unrealistic expectations? The jury’s still out on that one.)

That said, I have been told that my enthusiasm is contagious and motivating. People have been known to sign up for something, or purchase a specific product, or try out a new hobby – partly because they saw how much enjoyment I was getting from it, but also because they were already halfway there, and just needed a little push in the right direction to convince them to dive right in. (In such cases, most of the time I don’t even realize I’m pushing. Perhaps that’s what makes the difference?)

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So I guess under all the perfect conditions – when I’m excited about something, when my enjoyment and appreciation for something bubbles over in an authentic way, and when the audience is receptive – I suppose, then, I could say that I am good at influencing others.

But really, only then.

How about you?
Are you good at influencing other people?
Please share!

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Laurel Storey, CZT – Certified Zentangle Teacher. Writer, reader, tangler, iPhoneographer, cat herder, learner of French and Italian, crocheter, needle felter, on-and-off politics junkie, 80s music trivia freak, ongoing work in progress.

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  • Sylvia January 29, 2014

    If I were influential, I’d be rich. I think its a secret combination of confidence, passion, enthusiasm and something unknown. Salespeople have it, the good ones are seemingly born with it. Sometimes I can achieve the art of getting my own sweet way. But if I could be more of just one thing, it would be influential.

  • Lorinda J. Taylor
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    January 29, 2014

    I’ve always said that I can only remember one argument in my life that I ever won! LOL I’m not pugnacious enough! I’ll just concede the round, even though I don’t change my mind. And I do wish I had more of what you said where promoting my books are concerned: that something would bubble over in an authentic way, and find a receptive audience!
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    • Laurel Regan
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      January 30, 2014

      Interesting – I find that a lot of artists, writers, etc., while super creative and talented, aren’t particularly good at promoting their own work. It seems as though it’s rare that the two qualities co-exist! I guess every artist needs a promotional patron. 😉
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  • Nayna Kanabar (
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    January 29, 2014

    I think if you are genuinely passionate about something it will show through you and people will not need convincing.
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  • Debra Jason
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    January 29, 2014

    As a copywriter, the content I write is designed to captivate and convert prospects. However, in life, when I’m in a conversation with friends/colleagues/prospects, I don’t think about influencing them one way or another. I think about sharing my perspective, my enthusiasm, my point of view. They can choose to agree with it or not. Guess it’s best to be detached from the outcome.
    Just like you suggested, when you’re excited & enthusiastic, you come across as genuine and authentic. People appreciate that and will take away whatever resonates with them and leave the rest (so to speak).
    Thanks.
    D
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    • Laurel Regan
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      January 30, 2014

      It would be rather challenging for me to have to write convincing copy about something if I felt lukewarm or disinterested about the topic. I admire copywriters who can write about anything convincingly!
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  • Lynda Lippin
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    January 29, 2014

    I am and always have been. That is probably why I am a good pilates teacher. I can get people to do what I tell them to do in order to feel better!
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  • Haralee January 29, 2014

    I think you have it, enthusiasm for something piques other peoples’ interest.

  • Diane
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    January 30, 2014

    That is exactly when one is most persuasive. When one believes wholeheartedly in whatever they are presenting! If you’re not convinced yourself, your words ring hollow. You’ve discovered the secret! 🙂
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  • ElaineLK February 1, 2014

    Well, your influences on me have been (1) the very eye-pleasing layout of your blog, which is so easy to read; I especially like your short paragraphs and the way you isolate some sentences and use bold or italic font for them–I’ve started doing some of that on my blog–and your use of lists. (2) Your gratitude lists. (3) Your enthusiasm about NaBloPoMo, which I just signed up for. So you see, you are persuasive in the best way!

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